I hope you’re ready to encounter your very first Sarah special rant – Valentines Day style! I feel slightly nervous about posting this, as I suppose it could potentially be controversial or make me seem bitter. I would like to clarify that I am not bitter, and this post should be taken with a pinch of salt!
I’m pretty sure there will be at least one person out there who can relate to at least one of these points that I dread about Valentines Day…
Whether you love it or loathe it, it’s a fact that Valentines Day rocks on round once a year. Ohhhh yes, it does.
I suppose the concept of having a whole day devoted to love is just, well, wonderful and rosy isn’t it! For some people Valentines Day is simply a reminder of their constant love for their partner. For some they like to make a huuuuuge deal of their love on Valentines Day and then not much the rest of the year. And then there are the singletons (that’s me). So, in no particular order, here are some of the reasons that Valentines Day (currently) fills me with dread.
The barrage of Valentines Day advertising emails
In the weeks leading up to Valentines Day my email inbox is filled with what can only be described as an influx of advertising campaigns for all things Valentines Day. Now, this was just swell when I was in a long-term relationship. I would probably have been clicking on every deal under the sun to see which offers were the best (£175 for dinner and an overnight stay in a suite on George Street in Edinburgh – yes please!) However, I won’t be needing to know specific details about the Valentines Dine in for Two offer this year, thanks very much Marks and Spencer.
The reminder that your life plan is an epic fail and you are still alone
When I was sixteen I left school with next to no qualifications. To cut a very long story short, I enrolled in a music course at college which was full of older, or to be politically correct, mature students, and one day one of them asked me what my life plan was.
*cue my panic-stricken look*
Life plan? What life plan? Was I meant to have a life plan?
That night I went home and thought for hours about my life plan, using my collection of colourful [pentel] gel pens to create a list in a notebook before returning the next day and announcing to everyone that I was going to be married by the time I was twenty with children by the time I was twenty two. To this day I remember the strange and horrified looks the matures gave me and then them all telling me that twenty was very young to get married. But when you’re sixteen, twenty sounds old, right?!
And here I am all these years later… My so-called “life plan” has completely and utterly failed. And now I myself am one of those matures, alone on Valentines Day for yet another year.
Reminders from your friends and family that you are, indeed, still single
If I could relate to any fictional character it would be Bridget Jones. No, really. Every time I watch those films I pretty much high five the air because That. Is. Me. Honestly, I cannot express how annoying it is when my family and friends constantly ask how my love life is. Oh, are there any “men on the scene”?! And you guessed it – if I got any Valentines cards. I mean, does it really actually matter that much to them?! Usually, I am a pretty private person in general but if there was something going on with my love life, I’m pretty sure they would know about it.
I am now at the point that I actually feel the need to thank people for not asking me about my love life when I have met up with them and we manage to get through a conversation without them questioning me about any dates I’ve been on recently! How ridiculous is that?!
Anonymous Valentines cards
When you’re ten or eleven the idea is… cute. But when you’re a grown adult just grow a pair and tell me who the heck you are. Who knows, maybe we’re the perfect match!
Even worse is when you know who the sender is, and said person asks you if you got any Valentines cards. *Facepalm*
All the lovey dovey and “lucky girl” Facebook status updates
Do I really need to elaborate on this?! If I ever did this when in a long-term relationship I will hold my hands up and sincerely apologise, but I really don’t think I ever did. Maybe it is the rise of social media (God, that makes me sound old) but it is getting worse every year! I don’t give two hoots about your 900 red roses you got or your Cartier bracelet #luckygirl
Maybe when I’m back in a relationship again these things won’t fill me with dread as much *checks list and half probably still will, haha*
Anyway, personally I feel you should be showing your love for your significant other 365 days a year and not just for one media frenzied day of the year – does there really need to be all this hype for one day?
What are your thoughts on Valentines Day? (I would love to hear them whether you agree or disagree with my dread!)